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Chandra Moon
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12/6/2012 9:26:50 AM
No Friend Of Mine
At last a new song for you! This is a new recording of a song I wrote in 2008 about an old friend of mine who suddenly turned on me for unknown reasons. I'd known him since I was 16 and we'd been really good pals but have not seen each other since then.
He was a recovering alcoholic and had struggled hard and won the battle against drink and even ran a marathon and became a social worker. The song refers to "you crossed the line, we cheered for you"..... because myself and my kids were there at the finish for this amazing moment. By the time I released my first album which was the equivalent achievement for me - he wasn't there for me.
It's an unmixed track with a few tweaks to go yet but I really hope you like it anyway. I'll upload the finished version when I release the new album.
This is the 10th and probably final track. I feel I've crossed another line and wish I could have shared it with that particular friend but you can't win them all.
No Friend Of Mine
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Richard Scotti
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12/6/2012 12:07:50 PM
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Nice track, Chandra...very tight drums and well executed all around. I love the lead and backing vocals as well as the lead guitar and organ. It all has somewhat of a gospel feel to it which I like very much. I sympathize with the message in the lyrics. I've been let down too from time to time even by people related to me! It always hurts but in the case of substance abuse, that's a different matter. Unfortunately people with addictions never truly "win the battle" over their addictions. It's a lifelong struggle that continues even when there is total sobriety. They say that addicts don't have friends, they take hostages. Even in recovery they tend to be very self involved and can't always be relied on. They are needy but not very empathetic towards others. That doesn't mean that you are not entitled to your hurt feelings but keep in mind that addicts and recovering addicts are not fully in charge of their own actions. They are sick people who may deserve forgiveness but that's not for me to judge. All addicts are different and I don't want to paint with too broad a brush but there are patterns that arise in this situation as there are varying degrees of recovery. Some do better than others, but there are certain attributes that color everything they do for the rest of their lives. Relapse usually occurs but not always. Your ex-friend might be sober but he still can't handle the responsibility of being a friend.
Perhaps achieving sobriety was the best he could do and he deserves some credit for that. (imo)
I don't think this person let you down intentionally but you have every right to say that he is no friend of yours. You shouldn't over personalize his actions as it is possible that he is simply incapable of returning your friendship because of reasons which might have little to do with you. At least you got a great song out of it (lol)
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Chandra Moon
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12/6/2012 4:14:11 PM
You are very right - in a way I have forgiven him without really getting over the hurt. If he and I could talk about it, it would help. I do understand about addiction as although I don't have an addictive nature myself, I've had relationships with alcoholics and even attended Alanon for seven years.
I'm glad you like the song (only 2 chords!!!), I'm really happy with how it's developing and am looking forward to mixing it properly soon!
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Shoe City Sound
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12/7/2012 5:10:05 AM
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I love the 2 chord aspect ... it's a nice groove when the song just sort of unfolds over a steady rhythmic/harmonic foundation. Plus you have such a compelling, story telling voice - nice one! The drugs don't help, but there's definitely that type of person that gets hurt oh so easily, but never gets it when they've hurt someone else..... best to move on and write a cool song about it.
D
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Stoneman
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12/7/2012 11:04:27 AM
My goodness Chandra, I really enjoyed listening to this bluesy song. I like everything about it. The vocals, lyrics, guitars, organ and background vocals are all perfectly blended here. The message is straight to the point and it is one that I am sure we all have faced before.
Losing a dear friend like this is always disturbing. Especially when you have done so much to see them through some difficult times in their life. Then, when you need them they are gone leaving you to fend for yourself. These kinds of wounds are very hard to heal. Plus it always leaves unanswered questions. The biggest being "why" would you abandon me after all that I did for you? Rest assured that the answer has nothing to do with you and more to do with whatever state of mind or life that person was in. But the reality that it is their loss of a good friend who helped them when they needed it. It is amazing how quickly people forget what you have done for them!
The good news is that the experience has brought forth such a monumentally important addition to your musical catalog. This song will be an important song on your new CD. I wish you great success with it.
As always, Much Respect Chandra
Stoneman
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Chandra Moon
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12/7/2012 2:52:41 PM
Thanks so much for your positive feedback on this song - I must say it's brought back all the feelings about that particular friend.
Today I did something crazy and sent him a message with a link to the song. No idea if that was a good idea or a terrible one - we'll see................ at least I've got it off my chest and I must say I'm very pleased with the song and can't wait to just finish it off.
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Steve April
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12/8/2012 3:41:09 PM
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hi chandra,
wonderful comments from stoneman, and richard, and dolores.
I also really like the song, generally...the "woo woos" are grand, the sonics are well balanced and effective and clear...
Don Henley's 'forgiveness,' (on a similar theme).
kudos...
p.s.
songwriting may be a consciousness raising experience in that release from the anguish lol...in art...in drama, a resolution...
humbly,
s.
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Chandra Moon
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12/9/2012 3:57:17 AM
You're right Steve! I feel lighter and got the whole thing more in perspective now that it's "out" after all this time. For years I kept telling myself to get over it, it's the alcoholism talking, this reason, that reason...... but now I do genuinely feel better about it all. Thanks again for everyone's comments. Should have it mixed and a few glitches ironed out by the new year.
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The Big River Bandits
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12/9/2012 10:34:26 AM
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Hi Chandra,
Really enjoyed listening to this song - great groove. Nice vocal sound. I can really relate to the subject as well.
Cheers,
Gerry Power.
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Chandra Moon
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12/9/2012 10:54:54 AM
Thanks Guys!
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