The Black Orchids
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5/1/2008 2:14:59 PM
The story behind my song "Tell Me"
Since being here, and my song Tell Me getting so much love I feel it's time to tell the story behind it. Nope, it's not about sex.
About 4 yrs ago, a female friend of mine was telling me about this great online dating site.
Not that I need anymore help in the area (ego), but she said "come on, try it everyone does it".
So, I went there and looked around. I was like, ok she's cute, she's cute, she's cute ect....
After about three months of going on a bunch of meaningless dates I decided this wasn't for me. The day I'm canceling my account I see this girls picture and click on it. Not only was she pretty, but she was also a singer, song writer, keyboard player. Her profile made sense to me, along with her views. It really was the only profile I ever read that actually seemed like a real person wrote it. I wrote her with my phone number and canceled my account.
She called, and we spent the next two weeks on the phone chatting about every possible
subject. She also told me she was looking for someone to help get her music going again.
She'd been burnt by many studio's, and boyfriends along the way and never got anything
recorded, or produced properly enough to sell. So, the day we met it was instant love on both ends. Now, I was married before, and my ex-wife was probably as close to a soul-mate that I ever came to, but she was not a musician and that was always an issue between us.
All of a sudden I'm in love with this new person who has everything I could ever want.
But, you know the story......If it seems to good to be true..........
She has a very bad addiction to opiates that surfaced early on.
Had I not been a druger myself before I probably would have never known, or at least not right away. I always wished that one day I could redeem myself, or at the least give something back for all the suffering I put loved ones through during my years of drug use.
(I've been clean for 15 years, and I have never once looked back.)
So, I stayed taking care of her, and her family while she decided to spend most
of her days in bed completely useless to me and everyone else around her.
We bought recording equipment to get her music going again, but since I was pretty much
all alone during this year I just started writing my own music while she was "out".
I left her and the end of that year, but stayed friends with her recording on occasion her music and mine. Eventually she was getting deeper and deeper into her problem to the poin that I was catching her by complete accident. Finally enough was enough for me.
Right before I completely severed all ties, she did something that really drove whatever heart I had left into the ground.
My song "Tell Me" really covers our relationship, and says so much about it for saying so little. I'm sure if you go back and listen to it now you'll have a better understanding.
Thank you for reading this, and thank you to everyone who's listened to this song.
I really felt like I needed to explain this. Doug Roccaforte
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5/1/2008 2:47:01 PM
I relate to your story. Back in 2002 I met a girl on the internet who I really liked a lot. The relationship grew in multiple respects and she became my manager for a time. I knew her about 6 months when one day, suddenly, she ran into an old friend and just totally changed. I found out she had been a recovering methhead. It's like a horror story how she became then, when using. She put me through some of the sickest psychodramas I ever experienced. She would be ok one time and berserk the next, verging on pure evil. Finally I had enough and dumped her. I cut off all contact with her, occasionally feeling merciful and talking to her again but I always regretted it. She is a total nutjob. The anomaly was actually that she was totally clean when I met her.
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SILVERWOODSTUDIO
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5/1/2008 3:30:20 PM
thanks for sharing that-----
-maybe that's what it takes to write such a real piece of Art!---
I have had a similar experience with an old friend who was also a great vocalist
in our band at the time----also a call girl----!!
When she went on the Methadone it actually seemed to get worse---mainly the company she kept---she was always lying, late, didn't turn up, lost stuff, had bad relationships etc etc
I met her recently when she visited from Melbourne---she was totally changed!
Had breast cancer, and survived, met a good man, was into salvation army etc etc---I still think of her as a good friend
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The Black Orchids
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5/1/2008 8:41:29 PM
Raymond,
She did. I wrote 10 songs about her and she sang on 4 of them.
Three are on my artist page, her name is Melanie.
At the time I met her I really wasn't doing a whole lot with music.
Now I'm in two bands, and the producer of three other acts.
It did motivate me once I got started, now I'm pushing like madd.
Doug
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