Stoneman
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4/27/2017 12:13:25 AM
Women call me sweetie all the time. not sure why but for some reason they feel open to doing that and I don't mind it at all. Just a mild form of affection. But I would never call someone that in a work situation. The only people I call sweetie are family or my wife. In a work situation it can be considered condescending and harassing. But yeah, I get it all the time. Most recent was the checker at the store. She smiled at me and asked: Sweetie, do you want to buy a bag? I just smiled back and said "No honey". I figured that if it was okay for her to address me that way then it was okay for me to reply that way. So many people are hyper sensitive these days. You have to be careful about what you say or it may be taken the wrong way. But we all have slips and its okay to apologize when we do. At least, that is what I tend to do because I don't want anyone to feel offended by something I say. Most people are very understanding when you give them a respectful apology. Of course, there is an asshole in every crowd so be prepared to deal with him. My wife and I were at the country club one night and a guy walked up to me and said "Hey, you are the first Black guy I have ever seen in this town. Do you live here? I said yep, been here for 17 years. Then he said well, there goes the neighborhood. and laughed. But I didn't laugh with him. I just looked at him and walked away. Later his wife came over to our table and apologized. She says, Hello, I just wanted to come over and apologize for anything my husband may have said to offend you. He's been drinking tonight and is a little out of control. I said, oh, no problem, I have lived here long enough to know how things go. Then she asked my wife if she had tried the Fried chicken. I just shook my head and looked down at the floor. I thought, jeesh, these people ain't even trying to be racist. But, they are. I have seen some people get their asses handed to them just for things they said. There were a few who got my boon dockers shitty. But, I was young and quick to fight back then. Now, I just avoid ignorant folks like the plague. Also, I try to treat everyone with dignity and respect. If they disrespect me then I deal with them. But I try to keep in mind that there are a lot of ignorant folks out there who say really ignorant shit. Referring to your co-worker or classmate as sweetie is not the way to go. Reserve those special mumblings for people who are special in your life.
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