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Tony Vani and Debbie Hoskin
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1/17/2008 3:11:25 PM
What has been your most life altering event?
And how did it alter you musically? personally? spiritually? (or other)
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Magnetfisch
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1/17/2008 3:36:01 PM
my father's death in 2007... and my girlfriend's love
2 events that trigger energy (from the anger felt and as a response against sadness) on one side, and hope on the other.
this will be the red thread throughout our forthcoming album
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Nerol
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1/17/2008 3:50:16 PM
The death of my grandfather in 1973. That was my "end of the innocence." And my brother's death in 2006. That was a kick in the gut.
Both events caused me to giving songs titles that were significant dates in my life.
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The Man With No Band
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1/17/2008 3:53:57 PM
Well ..... ever since I saw her standing there ... the music has never stopped ... :)
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SILVERWOODSTUDIO
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1/17/2008 4:15:54 PM
deaths and births---are certainly powerful, and I have endured some horrific loss(my mother, daughter) and elation (my grandkids) but meeting my soulmate changed me the most----- thanks Annie!!
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Slimdog Productions
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1/17/2008 4:51:59 PM
As God is my Witness: In 2007, from March until November I had: My Dad, 2 Uncles(Mom & Dad side), 2 cousins(1of them, 2 days before my father's funeral) and 2 neighbors( 1, a 22 yr old girl, who used to babysit my kids: murdered and found buried on a side of a hill) all pass away because of various causes. It altered me in all 3 ways. Musically: I strive for the best I can do and I was happy my father got a chance to hear my beginnings with this. Personally & spritually: I found out me and my whole family are very strong in LOVE and in God with us accepting whatever His Will is. It's difficult and of course I ask why, but I know all that happened last year IS for a reason and I accept that.
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RedRobin
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1/17/2008 5:11:48 PM
So many here have directly experienced the deaths of very close loved ones. Death and Birth is the circle of life, always has been and always will be, and so we have to accept these things but never forget but be enriched.
My 4yo son died in my arms in 1999 and shortly afterwards, by way of support, my Native American friends suggested I play their flute. That's how I come to be a musician.
I give thanks for and live for each day. I stopped working and enjoy very valuable freedoms.
As (I think) Slimdog says: Everything happens for a reason.
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Amanda Jane
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1/17/2008 5:41:53 PM
In January of 2005, my brother was murdered. He was only 24, I was 21, and my world collapsed. He was my best friend and the constant male figure in my life. I managed to complete an international tour and finished up my last year in college, but I had hit rock bottom. I moved home in an effort to find myself as an artist because I had decided that since life could end so abruptly, I would spend however many remaining days I was granted focusing on what I loved most and was passionate about. Singing at my own brother's funeral was the pivitol moment that made it clear to me what I was here to do-create music that can connect emotionally to other people. I was so broken that I was faced with a choice: unending depression or emerging from the ashes stronger than ever. I chose the latter.
I learned early on that life is way too short not to do what you love. I also tend to write from a spiritual point (not religious) in many of my songs-it definitely molded me into the person and artist that I am today. -AJ
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Black Velvet Lace
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1/17/2008 6:04:40 PM
I am gut-struck by the pain, loss and triumph, reading all of your responses. to those who lost someone dear, especially the young, or tragically, my heartfelt condolences. I am really moved by your stories. I have had several life-altering events, none of which are as wrenching as what I've already read. They are, and not in order:
Personally~
1) Standing at my desk, with my mom on the phone as she opened the envelop that held my future, and hearing that I had passed a licensing exam which opened my whole professional career.
2) Standing next to my husband, marrying him, vowing to love him until death.
musically~
3) Picking up a microphone for the first time and hearing my voice come not from my head, but from a speaker cross the room, bouyed by the sweet strains of an acoustic guitar.
spiritually~
3) Sitting on my couch one afternoon with a friend as I crossed the line of faith and gave my life to Christ.
All of these things changed my past, present and future life, forever.
~Lace~
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Slimdog Productions
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1/17/2008 6:38:48 PM
You are correct in assuming I do believe everything happens for a reason RedRobin just as I believe this subject was brought up on this site and we were to post our experiences to help each other: To heal, to learn, to teach and to know we all are not so totally different from one another in life's experiences here on this Earth. Even though as tragic 2007 was for me and my family and as tragic(and joyful) as all of your shared experinces are, I always thank the Lord for the experiences I have gone through because these things have made me the person that I am today. Honestly, I wouldn't change any of my experiences in life even if I could. I know that there are people that have had worse or are experiencing way worse things than I have ...or will. For that, I am grateful.
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LyinDan
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1/17/2008 6:58:05 PM
Getting pregnant. I swear I'll never do it again.
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mysticangel_001
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1/17/2008 7:48:28 PM
Being in an explosion when I was 12 and losing my sight for nearly 3 months due to my eyes being so badly burnt. It taught me to never take anything for granted and to have the courage to at least TRY for the things I desired. I may not have gotten everything I wanted but at least I tried and for that I will never have any regrets.
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The Man With No Band
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1/17/2008 7:54:25 PM
I have lived a very full life ... so I think it's hard to say what was my most life altering event ... I really think life alters constantly ... which is a good thing otherwise one would never learn and be bored out of their mind ... I have seen terrible tragedy, I've watched as those I've loved have died (young and old) and been very close to death on more than one occasion myself ... On the other side I have seen my children born, tasted the sweetness of clear mountain water, watched the setting sun paint the most beautiful colors across the sky above the Grand Canyon, felt the loving soft touch of a beautiful woman ...
So far I think the biggest alteration in my life is having developed an attitude of knowing that life is a precious gift ... no matter what happens ...
I would hope to think my most life altering event is yet to come ...
Then again it could of already happened that day in the lab .... when I accidentally absorbed that mind altering chemical through my skin and into my bloodstream ... :)
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1/17/2008 10:57:08 PM
Deb, I think we know that you have had some pretty devastating, life changing events [although you don't say here] but it would be interesting to know how your music was affected.
All the life changing events in my life came before music was an issue but most definitely they inspired me to write and create poetry. Now I have music I do notice that it blossoms most when I have a new person to write for [or impress] as I tend to musicize [?] my feelings or communicate through song - having a focus or reason to write is important to me and even though the songs go way beyond my actual feelings I need that catalyst.
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DirgeK
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1/18/2008 11:40:29 PM
Dirge's death has had very profound effect on me. It has taught me never to take anyone or anything for granted. Her death has brought me in contact with many talented people. Being involved in her music has enriched my life and renewed my interest in many genres of music and inspired me to go back to playing guitar myself. I know that I will always have music there to comfort me as I get older.
I still feel in shock and disbelief about her death and I am still in very deep grief as we always lived closely together and I so miss her youth, her beautiful smile, her laughter, her singing. Sometimes I feel like 'The Loneliest Woman in the Universe' but I know she is now at peace and we will be together again eventually.
It has made me re-evaluate life, wondering what is the purpose of it all
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RedRobin
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1/19/2008 2:44:51 AM
DirgeK - Your words so accurately describe exactly how I feel (having lost my son) but I would offer an answer to your words: "wondering what is the purpose of it all"....
Don't bother your head by trying to work out an answer - There is more peace in simply accepting the continual circle of life and death and enjoying each day positively. Dirge would want you to always be happy in spite of you missing her like crazy. Now you are here for yourself and also those you love who are still here.
Whatever is 'beyond', live in the 'now'.
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Tony Vani and Debbie Hoskin
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1/19/2008 8:12:24 AM
I think you are all incredible people. I'm honored to know you all.
My most life altering experience was the day I became a Mother. The day I gave birth to my first born, my son, I also gave birth to myself. Four years later I was blessed with the most beautiful and precious baby girl. I never dreamed I was capable of a love that ran so deep. It changed me forever. I would never be the same and I wondered how I ever lived without them. I didn't. I had merely blundered through life aimlessly. I have always lived for my family.
My life was devestated, altered again, by the loss of my son, Jason. I felt my soul shatter into a billion fragments that morning when the police knocked on my door with the devestating news.
Shortly after that, my husband Roger had a relapse and died of brain cancer.
Although there have been many life altering experiences in my life, these, by far, have had the greatest impact as far as altering who I am.
It's too early to tell how I have been changed. I still go in and out of shock all of the time.
I have always been very spiritual, but now, I only see things from a very spiritual viewpoint. I live in the big picture of life. I tend to love people more deeply, even strangers, because I know that we are all just souls here for a higher purpose, trying to get through the experience of life.
I have trouble with small talk. I have trouble spending my time on meaningless things. I tend to be very intensely serious and deep and then to balance myself I swing over to being totally wacked out and ridiculous....insane. I love the ridiculous.
Musically, I have always used music as a way to express what's in my heart. My songs are my personal journals. I have trouble singing my own songs.
Magnetfisch, Nerol, Sam, Silverwood, Laree, Slimdog, RedRobin, Amanda Jane, Lace, Lyin Dan, Mysticalangel, Soo, DirgeK's mom: I read each of your posts over and over. We are all in life together. Thank you for sharing the life experiences with me. deb
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RedRobin
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1/19/2008 8:43:36 AM
....Being willing and able to give each other support, whatever the subject, is one of the things that binds a community together - In this case it's the IAC community.
However you come to think you have changed, just accept that change and that such traumatic events make you what you are and can even enrich you. Always think positive. [Sorry if I appear to be giving you a lecture, deb]
Peace
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satch
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1/19/2008 9:07:30 AM
Wonder-ful thread! Thank you all for expressing your tragedies and your dreams!
When I was 7 or 8 years old, living in Bulawayo in the country now known as Zimbabwe (where I was born), my parents took my younger sister and I to a place now known as "Great Zimbabwe Ruins", though I remember my parents telling me that it was called "Monomotapa". The ruins were part of a great city, dating back some thousand years or so...
Anyway, these ruins are quite well known as a place of mystical experience, and it was there that I had my first truly mystical experience! I wandered off from the family after our picnic lunch, round a corner and into a chamber... the walls at Great Zimbabwe are really high, 30 to 50 feet in some places... anyway, I stood in this chamber and stared at the sky through the open roof... I started to feel "different", smaller, older, certain that I had been there before... I started to vocalise, spontaneously, just a simple monotone "oooo" sound, and drifted out of consciousness...
I remember, clearly, standing in front of this huge stone structure, losing all awareness of the world around me as I made this monotone sound, feeling insignificant and yet all-powerful in the same moment, unable to move, no fear, no panic, just a deep joyous feeling of warmth and love and oneness with all...
I don't know how long I stood like that, but the next thing I remember is my father gently hugging me and reassuring me and telling me that everything was okay... it seems that I was away for some 20 minutes before my parents realised that I was somewhere else and came to find me.
That experience changed my life, made me aware of the existence of the life-force, the power of nature, my own personal power, the truth of the immutable laws of karma and the cosmic scale of the lives we live. Though I couldn't express any of these words at the time, any mystical knowledge that I now have was initiated through this experience, somehow.
Here's a picture of a little of the ruins...
And here is the Wikipedia page about the place.
Fascinating and wondrous - it's now a World Heritage site. I'd love to go back and re-visit it one day.
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Tony Vani and Debbie Hoskin
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1/20/2008 5:46:20 AM
Satch that's a totally amazing experience to have at such a young age, obviously meant to start you on your path. I'd like to visit there myself. deb
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